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Do you need a day with your possibility fairy?

The other day, I noticed that I was feeling a bit grumpy, stressed and anxious. So I got a cup of tea and thought about what was going on in my head. And there was the answer. I realised I was being visited by the judgemental nag and his mate, the prophet of doom.

Everything I was saying to myself about my day, my future, my life had words like "should", "should have", "must" and "can’t" attached to them. And catastrophe appeared to be the only future option.I feel exhausted and stressed just thinking about it again!

My unhelpful visitors needed to take a chill pill and I decided to give myself a break and choose to spend the day with my possibility fairy instead.

Instead of "should", "must" and "can’t" I chose "could", "might", "can" and "want". And made full use of the magic words "just" and "yet".

Instead of assuming the worst, I challenged the evidence and chose to assume an equally arbitrary alternative. And I toned down my language.


  • Instead of this judgmental nag or prophet of doom perspective

  • I chose this possibility fairy perspective

Here are a few examples

  • It’s all such a nightmare.

  • Granted, it’s not ideal, but I can still...

  • This is never going to work.

  • You don't know that for a fact. You're just assuming the worst. It might work. Just keep going.

  • I should now.

  • Should I? Who says? I'm just not there yet.